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[–]Robotocracy 18 points19 points ago

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I agree totally; I actually take strong issue with the word "spanking" being used in the context of child discipline. It's a euphemism design to obscure the truth that "spanking" is just violence by another name. And I can't stand people who make the argument "well I was spanked and I turned out fine" - no, obviously you didn't turn out fine if you think it's okay to hit children. You're not the only one, it really weirds me out (in a bad way) when I see people associated with sj try to defend hitting children, I don't know why that's a thing.

[–]trimalchio 16 points17 points ago

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i mean; if you want to teach a child to regain control of situations with violence...

if you want to teach a child to act like an adult maybe you should act like a fucking adult around them.

[–]toasthaste 14 points15 points ago

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I also find the whole "I was spanked and it turned out fine" to be almost like... "well I was on the receiving end of spanking so I earned the right to do it to my kids!"

sort of like how violent hazing continues, where people want to inflict it on others because they had it inflicted on them, wanting to be on the other side of that

it's effed up

[–]BuffyTheFempireSlayr 14 points15 points ago

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Yeah, there's literally zero reason to support spanking, especially since studies have confirmed that it has no corrective influence on "negative" behaviours and in fact only increases children's tendencies towards aggression.

Abuse is abuse is abuse. There's just no way around it.

[–]WorshipNoodles 11 points12 points ago

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Yep.

I was physically abused as a child and I don't think corporal punishment is really ever appropriate. Even it's "just" light spanking. Violence is not okay and kids should not be subjected to it.

I get that there are some cases where the child is really out of control, nothing else seems to work, etc. (as is always brought up in these discussions) and it can be a lot easier to just get them to stop by spanking them.

But isn't it much better to take the time and effort to actually address the issue, rather than use a temporary fix that could very well hurt them?

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points ago

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i think spanking is not appropriate at all. I grew up getting stinging smacks on the bum or thighs and being hit with rulers or books. My parents figured it was ok because I wasn't being belted or hit with a cane. It still made me scream in pain and left a bruise. All it taught me was that they wanted to hurt me, not that I shouldn't do something.