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[–]toasthaste#1 Magic Nerd 3 points4 points ago

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tbh I didn't really have the "typical" american high school experience either, and I've never been sure how accurate those stereotypes really are. I am/was a pretty nerdy person, with my group of closer friends, and then a pretty wide and varied ring of more distant friends and acquaintances; some scitech nerds, some band geeks, some drama kids, etc. I guess I mostly didn't know any sportsfolks, but like. idk. I do think I probably had a better high school experience than most, at least socially. then again I was fairly outgoing back then? idk

[–]trimalchioWhen in Rome, Doot as the Romans Doot. 3 points4 points ago

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I've heard varied things about people's actual high school experiences in the US; but the one unifying factor here is that we have this whole media experience of "high school" that is very american and is obviously kinda exported to the whole world with our media, but in america i think it seems more like a blueprint for how to view and shape your life and less like a weird trope of american media.

like, i've had friends say their high school experience was really typical cliquey high school and stuff, but like that was far from universal and not really what my experience was like unless you really try and force it. but i think more people try and force it into their memory of high school, and a lot of people behave like that just because they feel like it's what's supposed to be happening. like, i'm sure some of my hs friends would totally say they had a typical cliquey high school experience even though i dont.

oh but the club thing is totally true and part of the college admissions process; you have to stay after school and do bullshit stuff to make it seem like you're a well rounded person. which things you joined did kinda make a difference but mostly in who you saw after school and for how long. but the whole thing with it is college admissions forms have a like "extra curriculars" section and theoretically it can make up for deficiencies in other areas or make a difference at a selective school. which is just so ironic because being scheduled to death and having no time to live your life is probably a great way to be emotionally stunted by the time you arrive at university.

[–]smart4301 1 point2 points ago

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My high school in the UK was pretty cliquey but not in a backstabbing way, just in a "kids can be really cruel" kind of way. There was loads of drinking, weed was pretty rare, and there was sex for the more popular people but not much of it was casual. I had a fucking miserable time but also I wasn't a particularly nice kid either.

[–]mustbecurious💃💃💃fahamas are best pyjamas💃💃💃 1 point2 points ago

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i had secondary school in two different places (same country tho). one was a public science high school (like a public school but... forced STEM i guess idk) and the other one was a private school

i got the cliques, except the cliques have different categories? the public one was very competitive because it was basically where you take university-level courses or something like that? and i remember it wasn't the kids that nourished that environment, but the teachers and to some extent the parents? i had a teacher that would arrange our seats by test scores every week. highest up front, lowest at the back to a point where she just spoke to the front three rows lol. and idk i guess that fostered a lot of resentment and a system of something that's not really fun lol

we didn't have school activities either, because STEM (?), and arts and sports are not prioritised so i remember wagging off with a couple of friends to pursue non-academic hobbies or something.