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[–]devtesla 3 points4 points ago

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I'm sorry this is happening to you :(

I think what's happening in this situation is that folks aren't really seeing the same things you are, like that this person did this thing or whatever, and are instead focusing on a kind of social cohesion that is forcing you out. It sucks a lot!

I know you've shot down this idea in the past, but this is very much the kind of thing a therapist can help unpack. Please look into what resources are available to you!

[–]1vs[S] 1 point2 points ago

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I went to therapy before. $15 a session with a student learning to be a therapist sounded like a good deal, but four sessions in and we got nowhere. It was definitely a waste, and if that's the rate things are supposed to go at then there's no way I can afford what I'd need. It's not viable.

[–]metagameface 2 points3 points ago

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If you'd like to give the self-help route a try, I can share a cognitive behavioral therapy book that my therapist recommended, and which I've been finding helpful for managing my depression.

I can't promise that I'll be able to respond promptly, but if you'd like to talk about how/if the book is helping, or, hell, if you just need someone to talk to in general, you're welcome to message me.

[–]1vs[S] 1 point2 points ago

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I've been able to manage depression and suicidal thoughts rather easily, but I've never had to navigate a social situation like this. That's where I'm lacking skills.

Thank you for the book though, I appreciate it. I think this kind of help could be helpful for me once I know what's wrong

[–]devtesla 1 point2 points ago

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I wasn't sure what you had done on that front, which is why I was still checking. I don't need to bring it up again.

[–]1vs[S] 1 point2 points ago

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Sorry, I shouldn't have snapped at you. I'm mostly angry with myself for wasting all that money, but it's probably good that I at least tried.

$60 is like, 1/5 of an entire Switch dude. it's 2/3 of a pro controller 8)

[–]devtesla 2 points3 points ago

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No worries, every hug!!

[–]1vs[S] 0 points1 point ago

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So many wealthy people keep telling me to go to therapy god dammit

[–]onononon 2 points3 points ago

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Do you have the ability to seek out new social connections at this time? It might be a good time to get a breath of fresh air at a new bar, or the dog park, or a free class at the library, or something idk...

Hope you feel better this sounds like a bad situation :(

[–]1vs[S] 1 point2 points ago

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I spoke to an RA. He basically said the floor atmosphere is such that "1 strike you're out". He doesn't like that, and advises me to do just what you said.