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I wanna die but I can't by a1b3c6in support

[–]a1b3c6[S] 8 points9 points ago

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Thank you so much for caring. I was feeling overwhelmed last night, but I'm okay now.

Waking up to these comments helped so much too :)

For all the people who asked: what's going on. by Throwagayin support

[–]a1b3c6 1 point2 points ago

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He has a lot of shit in his past and he is addicted to sex as a way of venting.

That's...incredibly odd, but potentially workable for the right couple. But then you go on to say...

I can’t stand the idea of him fucking other guys even though it really helps him...I could be fine with going right back on hold AGAIN if he could just be faithful.

Which I think should show to you that you aren't someone who can cope with him "fucking other guys as therapy." And that's a totally normally response. Very, very few people could handle a relationship like that. However, if he can't psychologically cope with being faithful, and you can't cope with him not being faithful, then there's just no way to reconcile that.

I think something you have to ask yourself is, how happy do you see yourself being in a relationship like this? 5, 10, 20 years down the line, if you two are together and some hardship comes along, and he copes by finding comfort in someone else's arms, can you really be okay with that?

I'm not trying to say you have to break up with him, but if neither one of you is capable of changing, there's not much room for anything else.